Why Reclaiming Wholeness?

Beyond Seeking, Into Being.

Within this, a challenge also emerges:

On the one hand the simplicity of the nondual recognition and the increasing accessibility to facilitation of nondual seeing is resulting in more and more of us glimpsing the true nature of reality and the self. However, conceptually speaking, there is a new dualism created – ‘nothing to do, nowhere to go, no more healing’ whilst we continue to suffer in our sense of seeking for experience to be other than it is now. This can leave those who have experienced recognition of The Self in a predicament. We are still suffering, and such suffering is inadvertently dismissed or bypassed. We are still seeking, are super aware of this, but now there is an additional atmosphere of shame and confusion around our experience and an incessant search for our hits of unbroken peace, clarity, and love. Seeking can be potentially misunderstood as bad, wrong, or stupid – yet we can’t stop as we yearn to rest in the depth and simplicity of Self as presence. If we are authentic about our experience this might take us to seek support in addressing our felt sense of struggle. For many, we remain stuck in this cycle. We sit on the other side of the screen of endless YouTube videos, satsangs, and forums – for pointings, transmission, and conceptual discussions. We inadvertently crystallise our nondual recognition through the lens of seeking – in the outsourcing of our core human needs.

On the other hand, the plethora of modalities to support human psychological and emotional struggle and the facilitation of human growth can also maintain cycles of suffering. We seek a new improved self and life as the solution to negating our core existential fears – which remain largely hidden from view – and keep spinning in our attempts to not turn around and investigate the heart of the matter. That is, the core root of the sense of separation and how this is maintained and conditioned within a social context. Managing thoughts, managing emotions, managing relationships, managing conditions – we stay on the surface of the fragmented self and its world of parts. 

It is our core fears that, when negated, keep us from deepening into the embodiment of our true nature. Instead, we remain in the experience of symptom after symptom arising to be fixed in our internal and external reality of becoming.

The Compassionate Practitioner

In our attempts to meet the challenge of human complexity within the context of nondual realisation there can be a natural tendency to collect and apply a wide range of strategies and modalities to meet the needs of the individual. This is a natural movement of compassionate wisdom. However, in doing so we can, through complex filtering, lose sight of what is core and very easily fall into a mode of inadvertent attempts to transform from deficiency, fixing, and management, whilst we are dizzied in our attempts to be inclusive and all-encompassing in our understanding. This can very innocently perpetuate the cycles of fear and seeking that are the core of human suffering for both practitioner and client. This can keep us on the surface of the fragmented psyche and the infinite nature of its illusory appearances – unceasingly obstructing access to the natural self-revealing nature of presence itself. 

The Heart of the Matter 

Unfolding Depth through Clarity, Simplicity, and Compassion

In Reclaiming Wholeness, human psychological and emotional need and the associated complexity around this is recognised, whilst also knowing that the nature of life (The Self) is to organically unfold and reveal itself with ever increasing depth and subtlety. It is also understood that this can be facilitated when we present with right conditions and right understanding. 

By understanding the nature of seeking and recognising the specific styles of seeking, a natural, relatable, and inclusive point of entry and focus is offered. This allows us to:

• explore and integrate, rather than negate and perpetuate, the experience of seeking (Clarity)
• be open to a range of modalities and perspectives and their fluid application in meeting life as it is now (Compassion)
• maintain clarity of focus that facilitates meeting the suffering of separation at its root (Depth).

If human psychological needs are not first met, the sense of depth of self as presence and the nondual nature of experience (wholeness and well-being) cannot be stabilised. But when we attempt to meet human psychological, social, and emotional needs through out-sourcing (fixing problems and managing symptoms), we miss the fact of our inherent wholeness and simultaneously turn away from the very medium through which we explore and deepen into our true nature – the felt fact of presence itself. This is why we keep seeking.  Through using the frame of Reparenting as Presence in addressing our seeking styles, we further maintain a simple and clear ground in following the dynamism of wholeness unfolding through the seat of compassion. 

This is what is needed to meet our fears and cease seeking. To support us through layers of experience – physical, social, emotional, and mental – in the embodiment (self-sourcing) of the untapped nature of our being – the true source of all need.